The fact that he would mistreat you at all seems to be a character issue, and that is absolutely a huge red flag to me. Perfect ever since that rocky first month, I don’t see how you can give greater weight to his previous behavior than his more recent behavior. I would say that the kind of person who is distant, puts you down, avoids sex and breaks hearts is a high-risk partner – the kind who may not have the capacity to make ANY woman happy. It makes a difference if you’re 25, 35, or 55, you know? It makes a difference if you have to be in a specific city to do your job or if you can do it anywhere. It makes a difference culturally and financially where you choose to plant roots. It makes a difference in how much time you have to invest on a risky relationship. But I would suggest that two years in, you may or may not be positive that you are meant to be married, but you should be sure of one thing: Your life goals and your boyfriend’s life goals are one and the same.
In other words, you should know him well enough, and have strong enough communication to know if he ultimately wants to get married, have kids, whether he’s ambitious, and where he wants to live.
(Backstory: although extremely handsome now he was definitely an ugly duckling for most of his life and as a result is not exactly experienced.) Once we started talking about his insecurities and I made it clear that I wouldn’t leave, things got much better.
It's also worked in an opposite fashion where the word 'Uncle' was uttered/screamed/hollered more than once. First off, I've never heard that phrase, so I don't know what it means. So after he banged your friend you met with him for coffee and he explains that you made him "cum too hard" in an attempt to keep you interested?? If the meaning is good you will sleep with him again? Fw-300 #ya-qn-sort h2 /* Breadcrumb */ #ya-question-breadcrumb #ya-question-breadcrumb i #ya-question-breadcrumb a #bc .ya-q-full-text, .ya-q-text #ya-question-detail h1 html[lang="zh-Hant-TW"] .ya-q-full-text, html[lang="zh-Hant-TW"] .ya-q-text, html[lang="zh-Hant-HK"] .ya-q-full-text, html[lang="zh-Hant-HK"] .ya-q-text html[lang="zh-Hant-TW"] #ya-question-detail h1, html[lang="zh-Hant-HK"] #ya-question-detail h1 #Stencil . Bdend-1g /* Trending Now */ /* Center Rail */ #ya-center-rail .profile-banner-default .ya-ba-title #Stencil . Bgc-lgr #ya-best-answer, #ya-qpage-msg, #ya-question-detail, li.ya-other-answer .tupwrap .comment-text /* Right Rail */ #Stencil . Bxsh-003-prpl #yai-q-answer, #ya-trending, #ya-related-questions h2. Fw-300 .qstn-title #ya-trending-questions-show-more, #ya-related-questions-show-more #ya-trending-questions-more, #ya-related-questions-more /* DMROS */ .Does a bad beginning mean that we have no potential?How do I figure out if we’re compatible long term without having a “where are we going” conversation and placing undue pressure on him/us?