Although you might think it’s a great way to get her to open up and that it will give her the impression that you really want to get to know the REAL her (unlike all the other guys), it usually just ends up as an awkward one-way conversation.Do you really want to hear all the grizzly details of her past relationships or how she cut herself when she was shaving her legs earlier that day?Women like to create a sense of mystery, and you should be conveying this yourself, too. When a guy says this to us on a first date, it gives us the impression that he is “testing the waters” because he is unsure if we will agree.Let the conversation flow, and let her reveal the hidden sides to her personality by gently provoking or challenging her, rather than making huge demands on her. Instead, try and implement what I like to call “future projections”.
Even for the most talkative of women, this can feel a little overwhelming.
It’s a game that can’t be maintained and guarantees dissatisfaction for both parties.
The goal of dating is to find someone who wants what you want, and wants that with you.
If it becomes apparent that she is not impressed with your choice of venue, smile confidently and say to her: “This is not your kind of place, is it?
” Remember this should come across more like a statement than a question.