So if you want to have a chance at meeting your most intriguing matches, you need to have the best possible profile, photos, and messages.” In my guise as a middle-aged American male, it’s my job to pursue women on our clients’ behalf.These people are often in their early 20s; young women with less dating savvy are easy targets for the company’s methods.“Rule 1: Don’t make her think too hard,” the manual says.“When writing sales copy…the goal is to reduce her ‘cognitive load’ so she’s more likely to reach the end and still have energy to write out a reply.” What does a “low cognitive load” pick-up line look like?I’m what’s called a “Closer” for the online-dating service Vi DA (Virtual Dating Assistants).
But as e-romance hits an all-time high, our daily dose of rejection, harassment, and heartbreak creeps upward, too.When I tell people that I work as an online-dating assistant, their initial reaction is of morbid curiosity. But the intake interviewer seemed just as interested in my ethical flexibility as he was in the journalistic details of my résumé. ” Would I be comfortable ranking clients’ photographs? I learned that there are two main types of writers at the company: “Profile Writers,” who create seductive and click-worthy profiles based on facts our clients have supplied about themselves, and “Closers,” who log in to clients’ dating accounts at least twice a day to respond to messages from matches.Despite hiring writers to do this work, virtually none of what the company does requires creativity of any kind., and are loaded with his personal insights into the primal female brain. “There’s no question about it,” reads one chapter, “women want to date the alpha male.They are naturally drawn to the ‘leader of the pack.’” Valdez elaborates later in the manual: “The alpha male is the .” But how do you present yourself as an Alpha?