Carolyn Mc Culley even says about the “kissing dating goodbye” book that she finally realized that this was what she should be doing.
She then talks about 7 years later (doing the math), most of the women in this bible study group were still surprisingly being single. It is as if she is quite taken aback that most of these women didn’t get married or that in normal circumstances most of these women should have been married.
“ One other thought I have is those that the more one has in an approach like “kissing dating goodbye” such as with time and past opportunities the harder it is for one to see the problems with it. It is even harder to admit the problems when one has invested a lot and thus past up other means and opportunities. I will be curious to hear what comments anyone has on this.
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He involved the parents in their courtship for guidance. But that’s not the story of many other readers who followed the book’s ideas and now, years later, voice disappointment and regret.
He and Katie didn’t kiss until their wedding day, and when it finally came time to kiss the bride, Ly froze. Some have called the book “legalism at its finest” and claim it “ruined lives.” Some say it engendered a culture of judgmentalism, pressured inexperienced people into marrying the first person they dated, and caused them to fear intimacy of any kind with the opposite sex.
She uses the term “kissed marriage goodbye” as reference to Josh Harris’s “kissed dating goodbye” book.Finally, when the coast seemed clear, he asked Katie, “Can I put my arm around you? About four months later, she said yes again when he asked her to marry him.Ly’s conservative approach to romance was influenced, he says, by sold more than 1.2 million copies and became an icon of the 1990s purity movement, which emphasized spiritual, physical, and emotional purity before marriage.Then three older men separately advised him to pursue her physically—some physical affection need not be sexual, they assured him.So there he was, internally sweating on the couch, waiting for the right moment when the movie didn’t have a sad or scary scene, so that he could touch her without danger of “emotionally manipulating” her.