Being nice can even make a person seem more physically attractive. Consuming alcohol, for example, really can make everyone else appear more physically attractive.
In fact, decades of research has shown that attraction is most likely to be sparked when two people perceive themselves as being very similar to each other. It could be similarity in terms of sociodemographics – most relationships are formed between people who are similar in terms of age, social class, occupational background, and so on.
But when someone agrees with us, they validate our worldviews and as result we want continuing contact with that person.
Knowing all this, is it possible to predict with any accuracy whether two people will form a stable relationship? One the difficulties with these sorts of predictions is that relationships are complex and often messy.
Human psychology is too complex to reduce to rules or laws of attraction – but that’s not the same as saying that there’s nothing to be gained from understanding the processes involved in attraction.
Understanding the science of attraction can’t guarantee you a date tonight, but it can point the way towards forming mutually benefiting relationships with other people. Well, first, it turns out that one of the strongest predictors of whether any two people will form a relationship is sheer physical proximity.