When I spoke to him again about it, he did apologise and said he won’t do it again but he then came out with a load of stuff about how unhappy he was in the marriage, that we never spend time together (which is true), but I don’t think it is fair for him to blame me.
My husband is a great father and has always been very hands-on with the children who really love him and I don’t want to end up separated.
Though it may be painful, the fact that you have started talking about issues is a good sign.
To continue with this process you may wish to seek marriage counselling ( relationshipsireland.com, accord.ie).
If your just looking for conversation try your search engine. I would recomend just avoiding that online all together.
Not only are we unaware of who is on the other side of the screen…. It does not seem to matter how well we think we are hidden these or fire walls ect….
If you’ve ever liked or commented on things you look up on sites they will often pop up searching your email address.
When I challenged him, he was embarrassed and then defensive saying it was just harmless flirting and that he had not gone over any line.
You might benefit from going to counselling especially if you feel traumatised and need to the help of an impartial listener to process some of the feelings.
To move forward, it is important that you continue to talk to your husband and try to understand the extent of his difficulties and what the underlying issues are for him.
There is a good chance of success for the two of you, if your husband accepts responsibility for what he has done and if the two of you are willing to work hard on improving your marriage.
Take some time out together You can also take action at home to improve your marriage on a daily basis.