For example, do they pray together or read the Bible together?Although research finds that greater religious practice is related to lower rates of divorce there is not necessarily a causal relationship.These are the kind of conversations that you may have intended to explore some day, but you’ve put it off. Use your contact with the priest, minister, rabbi, or imam to go deeper. If you were a lawyer or doctor you wouldn’t think of practicing your profession based on high school information. You don’t have to have a degree in theology but you should not rely on childhood explanations in an adult world. Even if the two of you come from different faith traditions and are committed to continuing them, make your home a place where you merge prayer, rituals, and religious traditions.
Share them with your beloved and chart how you will live out your beliefs and values together. That’s nice, but it’s more important to talk about what God means to you, what spiritual practices you find meaningful, and how you can support each other once you are married.
If only one spouse believes that faith is important, how does he or she stay motivated to attend services if the other is sleeping or recreating?
It’s not impossible, but it’s more supportive to go to services together.
Experiment with the rituals of each other’s faith and blend them to fit your family. If faith is important to you, discuss how each of you wants to share your faith with any children you may have before you are married.
The point is not whose church you go to, but rather that you bring it all home. It’s tempting to put off decisions about how you will share your faith (or ignore it) until you have your first child. If you are Catholic, this question will be part of your marriage preparation.