He wanted to do that with someone…have that with someone. He felt that he could not give Alanna the treatment that she deserved and was probably accustomed to.He knew that while he to do so much for her, the fact remained that he could barely take care of himself and his children.He had done that with a woman once before and it hadn’t worked. He wanted her, knew he deserved to be with her and could make her happy, but he had to resolve so much other stuff in his life before that could become a reality.Besides, would a woman like her really accept all that he had going on? So, while Alanna wondered what was going on with Michael and just chalked it up to his being shallow and single-minded; Michael actually had a hell of a lot of things going on in his mind.Knowing these things made him resentful and withdrawn.
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Alanna* and Michael* met through a social media site as many people do nowadays. He was an intelligent, compassionate, sophisticated man who said he was looking for a relationship. And this is certainly not a denigration of the Black male, but it definitely does speak to is an indefinable struggle to make it and connect with each other in a system that has been designed for Black people, particularly Black men to fail.
Michael initially reached out to Alanna because she had beautiful profile pictures, yet seemed down to earth, hard-working, intelligent and fun. Although Michael made the first move get to know her, he was a little intimidated going in. All of that institutional racism is right there on that date with you. He really could see himself with her; having fun, growing together and enjoying life.
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