Example: During the date, when you feel it’s going well, say to her playfully: “Next time we have dinner, you order the wine,” or “Next time we meet, when we see a movie, I bet you’ll talk all the way through it.” As you can tell, these examples have a playful undertone to them, but most importantly, they are PRESUMING that there will be another date without a flimsy question dangling at the end of it.
Any vague or generic compliments need to be abolished from the conversation.
Although you might think it’s a great way to get her to open up and that it will give her the impression that you really want to get to know the REAL her (unlike all the other guys), it usually just ends up as an awkward one-way conversation.
Do you really want to hear all the grizzly details of her past relationships or how she cut herself when she was shaving her legs earlier that day?
Let the conversation flow, and let her reveal the hidden sides to her personality by gently provoking or challenging her, rather than making huge demands on her. Instead, try and implement what I like to call “future projections”.
Similar to #2, never discuss any subject matter on a ‘first date’ that is not relevant to helping you determine if the woman you are on the date with is ‘long-term girlfriend material.’ Alan Roger Currie is a professional dating coach and author of ‘Mode One: Let the Women Know What You’re REALLY Thinking’ and ‘Oooooh . For more information, visit Currie’s page or his website, Instead of just asking what someone does for a living or what their favorite film is, finding out why they do what they do or why they like that film will get them to reveal more about their personality and create a deeper connection.
Go to your date armed with some fun conversation ice-breakers and stories about yourself to share too. And remember to really listen to what your date is telling you about themselves.
And this starts with knowing how to go on first dates.
First dates are often boring, awkward, unexciting, and even torturous to many men.