The scam usually ends when the victim realizes they are being scammed or stops sending money.
Often photos of unknown African actresses will be used to lure the victim into believing they are talking to that person.
The scammer convinces their victim that they are sincere until they are able to build up enough rapport to ask for thousands of dollars to help bring the gold into the victim's country.
The scammer will offer to fly to the victim's country to prove that they are a real person so that the victim will send money for the flight. The victim will contact the scammer to ask what happened, and the scammer will provide an excuse such as not being able to get an exit visa, or illness of themselves or a family member.
Unlike a gold digger, who marries for money, a pro-dater is not necessarily single or available in real life.
Another variation of the romance scam is when the scammer insists they need to marry in order to inherit millions of dollars of gold left by a father, uncle, or grandfather.