I notice that lots of people who were married for maybe 10 years or less seem to say…we got married early, found out it didn’t work, and then later remarried and have found long term, happiness with their next partner/spouse. ) increase the number of potential men for you, but I think you will see that age is only a number, unlike it was, say if you were 30, dating a 20 year old. Go on dates, but don’t force the serious relationship.
What I also notice is that I don’t seem to hear any/as many happy stories about people (like me) who were married 20-25 years, got divorced, and then found happiness/ marriage, etc again. I have always believed that 50’s is in fact, no-man’s land, whether you are single, married, divorced or widowed, the reason being that you aren’t really young anymore, but you aren’t old either. I am me and all I can do is live life to my potential. The thing that bothered me most about your email is this part: You write: “found happiness/marriage etc.
That’s why they’ve only met two of the women I’ve dated.
She’s probably not going to tell you if you are a rebound, plus–she might not even know you are until it’s too late and your heart is broken and you’re left sad and confused.
So, here are a few ways to tell if you’re a pacifier until the next guy: It’s natural to feel excited and outspoken about a new relationship when you’re excited about the person. However, if she’s purposefully dragging you to events with her friends, or making sure her ex is very aware of the new relationship and/or flaunting it in his face subtly—it may be an indicator that she has ulterior motives beyond simply caring for and being excited about your entrance into her life.
Whether it was a disaster of a marriage complete with thrown vases and messy legal proceedings, or an amicable ending with mutual respect and no harsh feelings—there’s going to be something in a woman that is a little lost, or disrupted after a major relationship ends.
It’s natural, and it’s good to embrace those feelings.