Many people, men and women, assume that when someone is divorced they made a lousy spouse. Just because a man is divorced doesn’t mean he’s a bad man.
As a double divorcee, I can tell you that yes, there were times I made a lousy spouse, but there were times I was the perfect wife! My mother always says, “One man’s trash is another man’s treasure,” or, more delicately, just because he wasn’t right for one woman, doesn’t mean he isn’t perfect for you!
This guy will need some time to adjust to the idea of a serious relationship. Perhaps you were well-prepared for a few snide remarks or some dirty looks thrown your way. On the other hand, did his ex throw you off kilter by being a complete psycho bitch?
Were the live images of her personality even more terrifying than the ones you imagined?
You wouldn’t want him judging you based on your ex-boyfriend, would you? Divorced men usually have a different air about them than men who have never been married.
Don’t judge their relationship; it isn’t yours and therefore, it really isn’t any of your business.
If you’re dating a man who has been divorced, chances are he’s had his heart ripped out by someone he held dear.
That usually means he’s not going to be in any rush to have it happen again.
So, aside from being the “bigger man” in the situation, and in spite of any feelings your guy might have towards his ex, you have to be cool so she isn’t interfering with your relationship (and yes, even unknowingly being talked about behind her back is a form of inadvertently interfering in your relationship).
The best advice I can give you when dating a divorced dad is to wait a while before meeting his kids.