Despite being a very mature young lady in every other way, in this emotional area I simply was not and I wasn’t prepared to deal with the emotions.
So I didn’t deal and I wasn’t always so kind to him.
Your suitor should always pay or offer to pay, and if you decide that you wanted to pay for that night, you may. He’s two inches shorter than you, needs a manicure, and played “We Wish You a Merry Christmas” with his dinner utensils. Under all the mess, you may find out he’s a nice guy who missed his manicure appointment and the short gene skips a generation in his family. Especially, when you guys get to the commitment talk, he might want to throw around that he’s not ready for a relationship, although you could have sworn on the second date he was ‘looking’. As women we love to plan things ( I know I do), and sometimes we tend to take the leadership role in the relationship.
By no means, am I condoning selfishness, but in these modern times, there aren’t many gender roles lingering around. Seriously, there aren’t as many options as we’d like to hope, so why eliminate the ones who could become an option. You plan the date from A to Z, and the man just needs to show up ( and probably, in the outfit you .) Doing this time after time will either have him relinquish his “power” or be silently frustrated with you.
Younger singles are more likely to friend their date on Facebook, communicate by text after a date, and be evasive about their availability if they're not interested in a second date.
I’ve seen in myself and in others how painfully easy it is to immerse yourself in another person, especially at these young ages where they’re (let’s be honest) ill-equipped to handle all the emotion that comes with relationships, dating, heartbreak, and the plethora of responsibilities that accompany it all. First, I don’t know how I managed to convince my parents to allow this when the hard and fast rule had always been “no dating until you’re 16” and I was 15 and a couple of months.
(Side note: If you’re not a Christian, these rules can still apply to you as they are a recipe for a healthy, strong relationship where you have a voice and are safe). As a new sophomore in high school, a senior boy and I had a mutual attraction.
I gave my heart away far too easily and allowed myself to be hurt (over and over again). I wish she’d made college decisions based on what God was telling her instead of what someone else was. ’ I have learned so much and there are lessons I want to spare my daughter, and my son when he’s ready, from having to learn firsthand.
I wish she would have been true to her own taste in clothes and music, and celebrated her love of writing and delighted in that instead of fretting over “what did he mean by? There are things I want her to know, to embrace, and to practice.