Yet sitting on my couch and talking intimately with strangers got boring after a while. I went to meet him post-dinner simply because I was too nervous to sit through an entire dinner with a stranger and his friends. And I kissed him back not necessarily because I found him attractive but mostly because I wanted to erase the remnants of my ex, which I thought would happen when I kissed someone else.So when a 39-year-old decent-looking man asked for my number after a brief conversation, I gave it to him. One of them turned out to be a super rich macho guy who ordered one champagne bottle after another and a truly dumb yet totally good-hearted blonde girl who was convinced that we were headed for disaster because we were going to Taksim, which apparently for her was a very dangerous place. I know, it doesn’t make much sense, but desperate times call for desperate measures.So don’t worry, you can’t get bothered by people you don’t like.Soon after I downloaded the app, I realized that finding someone that I found attractive and could have a decent conversation with was like looking for a needle in a haystack.For those who have yet to experience Tinder first-hand: it is a geo-localized dating application where people connect through their Facebook profiles, ensuring that everyone in the app is a real person.You select the gender, age range, and distance from which you want to scour for a match.He called right away and we talked for a little while. He invited me to dinner with his friends in Karaköy. My date, on the other hand, was a tall, dark-haired, blue-eyed, relatively good-looking man. I spent most of the night chatting to his macho friend who had great stories to tell, and we all went bar-hopping in Taksim, got drunk enough to be dancing with random people we met. At the end of the night, he wanted to come over to my place but I said no – I might kiss a man to get over my ex but I won’t sleep with him.
Tinder’s key feature (compared to other online dating services and apps) is that if both parties swipe right, which means you both like each other, you get to chat through the app.
Imagine being on the Hacıosman-Yenikapı metro line and looking around for a man that you like.
You might come across someone you find attractive at the Şişhane stop but only if you’re lucky.
I decided to go with the flow, take each experience as it came, and decide what I wanted to do then.
A week or two after my first date, I matched with a 30-year-old Spanish artist who had made Istanbul his temporary home.