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The concerns from family and friends, dangling the promise of a loving, healthy relationship at a smaller weight.This took place one year after I had quietly excused myself from dating apps.And we live in a culture that proves us right at every turn.Fat women with sexual appetites are made punchlines again and again and again.They can speak freely of the physical characteristics they like best: chiseled jawlines, long hair, slim legs.

But I also faced messages like these, tinged with entitlement to my fat body — a body that they expected was theirs for the taking simply because of the size of it.We began to arrange a dinner together when my prospective date interjected with a question. During his second, he announced, I asked for the check. I fell hopelessly in love, swept up in this unlikely partner’s intensity, vulnerability, drivenness, swagger and directness.We were abruptly thrown into the depths of each other’s lives, shedding one another’s light on the darkest corners of ourselves.There’s no question that fat sexuality can be riddled with power imbalances and predatory behavior.But why is a healthy, natural attraction to fat bodies so difficult for us collectively to believe?

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