So that’s the lay of the land, and now I’d like to say why I think it could be different.In the next three sections of this post, I will show that an older woman’s attitudes, both about sex and life, are just as good if not better than her younger counterparts’, and hopefully I’ll convince more guys to venture north of their current age-limits: since time immemorial, but these articles typically cite clinical testosterone/estrogen/progesterone studies and attempt to make the leap to “sexual peak” from there — if they bother to cite any data at all.I, on the other hand, can make my claim by looking at a woman’s stated preferences: This is a nationwide “age progression” of American women, a normalized heat map similar to the ones you saw above, but with an added geographical component.By moving the slider you can watch how attitudes become more sex-positive as the population gets older.Ultimately, I’ll argue that they would be well-served to expand their search upwards, to women in their thirties and forties.Because it has been a successful way to introduce previous posts, I wanted to put real faces on this demographic before I delve into a bunch of numbers.Metaphors aside, we can evaluate the potential matches for a given age/gender by summing the area under the curve (AP Calculus, ftw!
Here’s the data: A woman’s desirability peaks at 21, which, ironically enough is the age that men just begin their “prime,” i.e. Following that dotted line out, you can see that a woman of 31 is already “past her prime,” while a man doesn’t become so until 36.The median 31 year-old guy, for example, sets his allowable match age range from 22 to 35 — nine years younger, but only four years older, than himself.This skewed mindset worsens with age; the median 42 year-old will accept a woman up to fifteen years younger, but no more than .So you can see how differently women think about dating and age, here are the corresponding charts for them: Except in their early to mid-twenties, when they apparently want nothing to do with younger guys (i.e. ), women show an admirable openness to both reasonably younger and reasonably older men.Notice also how a woman’s actual messaging activity, shown in the heat map below, is roughly centered on her own age (as illustrated by the dotted “age parity” line). These color discontinuities indicate dramatic changes in a woman’s dating mentality: when a women turns 20 she decides it’s okay to message significantly older men (i.e.