But the same way I try to lay out best practices for dating and relationships while allowing for many exceptions to the rules, I think we’d all be well served to pay attention to how people really act when no one’s looking instead of taking their word for it. Men are attracted to women who are at their most fertile.Is doesn’t matter if the man is 50, already had kids, and has virtually no chance of being with a 20 year old.
No matter what he’s telling himself on his setting page, a 30 year-old man spends as much time messaging 18 and 19 year-olds as he does women his own age.
This doesn’t mean that 40 year old men want to MARRY that 20 year old woman, only that they find her the most physically appealing.
To tell men NOT to feel this way would be akin to telling them not to breathe.
Now, I don’t always agree with all of the conclusions that Rudder draws from his Ok Cupid data.
Once upon a time, he was trying to illustrate why free dating sites were “better” than paid dating sites, but it was clear that he was advocating for Ok Cupid.